I’ve often seen that Christians, particularly young Christian girls, feel pressured to believe certain things about culture and about people in general. Don’t be friends with atheists, don’t participate in LGBT weddings, don’t drink like everybody else does. Probably the most common example I see, though, *cough cough* Girl Defined *cough cough* is that girls ought to be modest, and they should have a problem with immodesty.
One nice thing about atheism is that we aren’t expected to judge people in ways like this. (I know “judge” sounds harsh, but at bottom, that’s what it is.) There’s nothing compelling us to be friends only with atheists or to think there’s probably something sketchy about people with tattoos. But, surprisingly, I have found that being secular does come with an expectation that is such a polar opposite of the Christian’s conundrum that it works in about the same way.
It’s a popular opinion these days, especially among atheists, that people should be allowed to wear whatever they want, no matter how modest—and I agree, so far. But it seems to me that I often see my fellow women going out of their way to show off what they’ve got, which is entirely their choice, but what I can’t understand is… why?
I feel out of place having any second thoughts on female atheist YouTubers wearing low-cut tops, because as an atheist I have no reason or place to dictate or have an opinion on what people wear, and I know that I don’t. I just want to express that I can’t understand what motivates people to dress provocatively on the Internet. I personally would feel unbelievably self-conscious and uncomfortable doing so.
This contrasts with the idea of Christians being pressured to judge others because I feel as though, as an atheist, I’m almost silently pressured not to be judgmental. I know there’s nothing wrong with female YouTubers making videos in camisoles, or even in bikinis, but when it adds nothing to the content and isn’t necessary, I can’t help but feel personally annoyed. At the same time, I feel like my annoyance is some sort of an atheist sin, and I’m not supposed to feel that way.
There’s a good chance that this subconscious judgment of scantily-clad women comes from my religious upbringing. I’ve never really been one to dress provocatively, so I don’t have many memories of my mother trying to get me to cover up, but the modest Lutheran culture probably caused me not to think twice about it in the first place. I guess this is something that comes with being a Christian-raised atheist that people don’t expect; sometimes the traits that were ingrained in us from our religious days stay with us. I know that it’s caused my unpopular opinion on atheists and modesty, but hey—atheists are a diverse group and each and every one of us can have different beliefs.